Sex Offenders Pedophilia or Ephebophilia

The media reported the Michael Jackson case incessantly for the duration of his trial. What was tragically lacking are the facts regarding pedophiles/ephebophiles and sexual child abuse.

Studies reveal 62% of girls and 31% of boys will be sexually abused by age 18--considered low based on health services.

--80% are sexually abused by a family member

--19% are abused by someone the child knows and trusts

--1% according to government statistics are abused by strangers

The unbelievable truth: Pedophiles/Ephebophiles conduct themselves as average and ordinary to the world. He or she may be a leader in the church; the community; or business. Pedophiles/ephebophiles seldom fit a classic stereotype--education, socioeconomic status, career or culture.

Furthermore, sexual abuse/incest is more difficult to believe or accept when the person we like, admire, love, and/or marry is the perpetrator. This is precisely why Jackson's family, fans and the uninformed can unequivocally believe he could not possibly be an Ephebophile--sexual attraction to adolescents.

Pedophiles/Ephebophiles are cunning predators with a honed mode of operation. They are experts at manipulation, thus escaping adult reality. They feel entitled, justifying their actions as loving; not harming the child. They expend considerable energy maintaining this illusion to themselves and others. They create a persona of goodness beyond reproach. They go to great lengths to present themselves as exemplary people, who love children. Jackson's defense attorney, Mesereau, invoked this convoluted tactic in response to the judge's ruling that previous accounts of sexual abuse claims, which were settled, was admissible. Mesereau countered, "He [Jackson] also has spent millions on children with AIDS. We can drown them with examples of where Mr. Jackson has been so benevolent, so generous, so charitable, so giving for good causes, that it will make their theory look silly."

Mesereau's statement exemplifies, anyone who sees through the perpetrator's façade is met with admonishment and rebuke for being critical, irrational, racist, out-to-get the person, and/or jealous. The perpetrator is the family emperor with no clothes. "I know my son, and this is ridiculous," Jackson's mother, Katherine Jackson, said in an interview on CBS "The Early Show." She said people who believe Michael is guilty "don't know him." Jackson's father, said his son was beloved around the world but had trouble in the United States because of racism. He said the accuser's motives were clear: "It's about money."

Even more frightening Pedophiles/Ephebophiles do not hold beliefs reflecting society's moral and ethical values. Therefore, coupled with the child's innocence and trust of the abuser usually pressure or violence is seldom required. Thus, the perpetrator can unequivocally state, "I love children. Never-ever. I could never harm a child or anyone. It's not in my heart. It's not who I am." --Michael Jackson, 1993.

There is another insidious aspect to Jackson's contact with adolescents--he flaunts the relationship as 'sweet and innocent' admonishing anyone for believing it is sexual. Using the definition of sexual abuse, Jackson's befriending adolescent boys under the guise of helping them with a life threatening illness and/or sleeping with them, albeit, he slept on the floor and the child slept in his bed, is in and of itself sexual abuse.

"Incest is both sexual abuse and an abuse of power. It is violence that does not require force. Another is using the victim, treating them in a way that they do not want or in a way that is not appropriate by a person with whom a different relationship is required. It is abuse because it does not take into consideration the needs or wishes of the child; rather, it meets the needs of the other person at the child's expense. If the experience has sexual meaning for another person, in lieu of a nurturing purpose for the benefit of the child, it is abuse. If it is unwanted or inappropriate for her age or the relationship, it is abuse. Incest [sexual abuse] can occur through words, sounds, or even exposure of the child to sights or acts that are sexual but do not involve her. If she is forced to see what she does not want to see, for instance, by an exhibitionist, it is abuse. If a child is forced into an experience that is sexual in content or overtone that is abuse.

Experience the Joy of Sex As Your Age

During their menopause years, some women become more interested in making love and trying new things with their loving partner than they ever were, while others find their desire gradually becoming non-existent. Months can pass before they fully realize there's a big problem.

Being in pain, feeling unwell, being uninterested or unable to make love because of antidepressants, relationship issues or family concerns can all contribute to problems in the bedroom.

Decreased libido is commonly caused by hormonal changes - lowered levels of estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone. Each of these hormones has a specific role in helping you become interested in being intimate with your partner. Estrogen helps you to feel heightened sensitivity and keeps your sexual organs moist and receptive. Progesterone keeps your libido awake. Testosterone, known as the 'desire hormone', also ensures that you can become ready for intercourse! When these hormones drop, so does your overall desire for physical intimacy.

The signs and symptoms that may accompany your menopause experience may not make you feel much like making love, and can include:

* Vaginal dryness, which is a common complaint of women at menopause. It can make comfortable penetration impossible. Declining estrogen levels may cause thinning of your vaginal walls and less lubrication. Intercourse can range from uncomfortable to extremely painful.

* Constantly having to deal with hot flashes, night sweats, and insomnia can leave you feeling exhausted and irritable with zero interest in becoming frisky

* Frequent mood swings can make it difficult to plan intimate times in advance, or get into the mood while it's happening. You may want to, one minute, but you may be completely against it the next. Feelings of guilt, unhappiness, depression and frustration can cause your libido to tank, as can several antidepressant drugs

* Self-image can be a significant factor in a woman's desire for intimacy. If you feel uncomfortable with the way your body may have changed during your menopause years, it may affect your willingness to share physical intimacy with your partner.

* Incontinence, weight gain and changes in your skin and breasts can all affect the way you feel about making love.

* Women who have undergone surgical menopause can have a difficult time accepting their new bodies.

There are many reasons for not making love, but did you know that there are at least 15 health-enhancing benefits to having sexual intercourse with a loving partner? Chief among the health benefits of sex for women is it helps you live longer! Other benefits include lowering stress and pain, increasing your body's production of estrogen, slowing aging, better sleep, raising your self-esteem, burning calories, feeling happier, feeling intense pleasure and many more!

If the health benefits of sex aren't enough to inspire you to make love more often, don't give up! There are many things you can do to naturally improve your sex drive and ability to have a great time between the sheets during and after menopause!

It's interesting that researchers say the biggest factors in being willing and able to make love as you age are your health, and side effects from medications for high blood pressure, depression, and diabetes!

While communication is the most important aid to intimacy, and the need for closeness never goes away, sometimes you've got to get back to basics to set yourself up for long-term success. It's crucial for life-long wellness to take proper care of your physical, emotional and mental health.

It's especially important in your 40s and 50s to do what it takes to resolve health challenges immediately, if they appear, and make adjustments to lifestyle choices that you've been living with since your 20s or 30s. This means choices re: food, drink, exercise, water consumption, etc. Lifestyle choices, not drugs or added hormones, will have a lasting impact to improve your sex drive and allow you to enjoy greater health and wellness as you age. When you properly nourish yourself with healthy foods, the right supplements, and other healthy lifestyle choices, it's more likely that your body will be able to balance your hormones naturally.

Not convinced that you need to take action now? You may want to remember that change can be difficult enough without being forced to do it later when you're sick or old, or both! The significance of making these changes takes on new meaning when you consider that it may extend the years you're able to enjoy pleasure and intimacy with your partner.

Look for natural menopause remedies that can help you to take back control of your life, and feel and look better than you ever have. A lot can be done without drugs or added hormones, to help you feel more comfortable with your changing body, improve your sex drive and keep the joy in your bedroom!

Sex Tips For Men - 10 Ways To Stop Have Boring Sex And Start Having Great Sex

In this article you are going to discover 10 SEX TIPS that you can use to stop having boring sex and start having GREAT SEX.

Many couples start a relationship by having good sex, but as time goes by the sex becomes more and more routine, less and less exciting and happens less and less often.

However, once you've read this article, you'll be able to 'kick-start' your sex-life and put a huge smile on your woman's face every time you take her to the bedroom and 'get naughty' with her.

Read on carefully and have fun with this...

Sex Tips For Men - 10 Ways To Stop Having Boring Sex And Start Having GREAT SEX

1. Try Something New

Doing the same things over and over again is a recipe for boring sex. Therefore, the first step towards having GREAT SEX that happens on a regular basis is to try something NEW.

In fact, if you make the sex different every time, boredom in the bedroom will become a thing of the past.

2. Tease Her

Teasing is exciting for your woman.

Try teasing her to the point where your woman BEGS you for more. Then tease her a little more.

Very powerful.

3. Spank Her

Every woman I've ever come across enjoys being spanked.

Try spanking your woman whilst having sex doggy-style and you'll INSTANTLY increase her sexual excitement. Grab her hair with your other hand and you'll drive her crazy.

Women like sex when it's a little rough.

4. Restrain Her

This gives you all the power and lets your woman just 'get lost' in the sexual experience.

If you've never restrained your woman before, start gently. You can do this by getting some handcuffs from an adult sex store.

5. Talk Dirty

For women, sex is very MENTAL. In order to give your woman great sex, you must stimulate her mind. In the bedroom, you do this with DIRTY TALK.

Dirty talk will immediately make the sex more interesting, fun and exciting and it will make it easier for you to make your woman have an orgasm.

6. Do Her Via Her 'Back Door'

Anal sex is something that many women would love to try.

It's naughty and taboo and women love to GET NAUGHTY in the bedroom.

The way to make your woman BEG YOU for ANAL SEX is to get her to link massive pleasure to having you touch her anus.

7. Have Sex Somewhere A Little Risky

The fear of being caught can be extremely exciting.

You can make this a reality by having sex in an office, in a car park or in a public toilet (or anywhere else you can think of).

8. Give Her An Erotic Massage

Do this by taking your time to touch every part of her body. Use plenty of oil and start with her back, then do her legs, then her bottom and finally -- once she's dripping WET... massage her genitals.

9. Leave Some Of Her Clothes On

This excites many women.

Try leaving her skirt on and just pull her knickers to one side, then have intercourse. Very naughty and a lot of fun.

10. Give Her The Gift Of Vaginal Orgasms

This is the big one.

If you want to give your woman GREAT SEX -- the kind of sex that is incredibly satisfying for both you and her... give her the gift of vaginal orgasms.

The 3 Sad Truths About Internet Porn

With the rise of porn on the Internet, many "free" web filters also began showing up. If you've ever used one of these free filters you'll know that they are rubbish. And most of them have lacking features that you need to purchase in order to use. So ultimately you end up paying for what you thought you were getting in the first place! Now there are 3 reasons why free porn blockers are a waste of time, and I'm going to share them with you.

Are They Really "Free"?

Most "no cost" web filters do not present all of the features that it promised initially. It's basically a marketing tool, to give you "a taste" of what the actual filter is all about. And after using this "incomplete" porn blocker, they'll start asking you to purchase bonus packs and other additional software. You may not realize this, but the porn industry is a billion dollar industry. They have been in this business a long time, and they know exactly how to design their adult content to slip "under the nets" of web filters, not to mention a FREE ones! They use various methods of getting their content onto your computer... without the use of a website. All they need is a few misspelled URLs, email links, and Pop-ups to dump their trash onto your desktop. These are just a few of the basic tactics that porn industries use to entice men and boys. So what's the use of downloading a free web-filtering software?

Ineffective Website Blocking

There are no guarantees that your web filter will be able to block all porn because hey, it's free! If you had a filter that blocked out sites containing only mature words and porn company names, all the porn workers have to do is misspell their site's domain name (as mentioned above), or they could simply give their site a neutral name like "White House". The keyword "Playboy" would obviously get blocked, but a keyword like "White House"... of course not.

File Sharing Sites

A free porn blocker is unable to block file-sharing websites. What is a file sharing site, and why do you need to block them? File-sharing sites are where people can come and download free music, videos, games, and almost anything else that's downloadable. But these sites are illegal. They contain free music that someone else paid for (the same goes for movies). So if you can download almost anything at file-sharing sites, then what about porn movie clips? Absolutely.

So now you can see the reasons why free web filters are surely a waste of time. But there's more bad news. Most of the "paid" (yes paid) porn blockers are just as bad as if it were a free one. They cannot stop the examples mentioned above. So what are you going to do to protect your family?

Learn How to Overcome a Porn Addiction

Everyone knows that the Internet is filled with an abundance of easy-to-find pornography that can be easily downloaded or viewed 24 hours a day. There are many different types of pornography available on the Internet, everything from photos to videos, a little something for everyone. You don't even need to pay money to access some of the hardcore porn websites on the Internet, because many people have become savvy to the filter technology that is used by many pay sites, making it easy to enter without too much effort.

Unfortunately, all this easy access to online pornography makes it extremely difficult for a person that has a porn addiction or the potential to become addicted to porn. It just makes it way to easy for a person with an Internet connection and a porn addiction to give into their temptations.

A lot of people wonder why people who suffer from a porn addiction don't just quit looking.

After all, most porn addicts really want to quit. Think about it, it can damage your sex life, make your spouse or significant other very upset, leaving the addict with feelings of guilt and shame. Unfortunately, an addict can't just stop. Most psychiatrists have accepted the fact that a person who suffers from a pornography addiction actually suffers from a mental disorder which can be effectively treated and cured.

You might wonder, what are the signs of porn addiction?

The true definition of a porn addiction is someone that has a difficult time limiting the amount of time that they spend looking at pornographic images - either photos or videos. Porn addiction is similar to other types of addiction disorders, so determining if someone truly suffers from this problem is quite simple.

General Characteristics of a Porn Addict:

* Inability to resist strong urges to view pornographic materials.
* A feeling of increased tension just prior to viewing pornographic materials.
* A feeling of relief or pleasure while looking at the pornographic materials.

Must also experience at least five of the following additional characteristics:

* Feels frequently preoccupied with getting access to pornography or being able to see pornography.
* Views pornographic materials on a frequent basis.
* Tries to stop or control viewing pornographic materials repeated.
* Spends a lot of time on the Internet to the point where it interferes with normal daily life.
* Pornography viewing habits interfere with daily life such as home, school, work or other obligations.
* Misses or gives up activities that are work-related, recreational or social in order to have more time to spend watching pornography.
* Recognizes that the habit is causing problems, but continuing it anyway.
* Feels the need to increase the frequency or intensity of viewing pornography in order to still feel the same effects.
* Feels irritable or restless is pornography access is not available or is denied in some way.

Perhaps the biggest question, however, is how to stop a porn addict from accessing pornography online.

The best way to talk with someone that you suspect may have a porn addiction is to speak with them openly about it. If the person is viewing pornography online, then there really is a lot that you can do to help. The first step, obviously, is to remove the temptation. You don't necessarily have to remove the computer from the home or rip out the Internet connection from the wall.

Once the person admits that they have a problem with a porn addiction and asks for help in controlling the problem, the best way to do it is to remove their access to pornographic materials on the Internet. You can easily achieve this by installing a simple porn blocker or web filter so you can prevent websites that contain sex or other materials from being able to load on your computer. MyPornBlocker is one of the top web filter software solutions available and is easy to install onto your computer. Using a web filter program can be a very quick and easy way to help remove the immediate access to pornographic materials and a great first step to beating porn addiction.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other's fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King's Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let's examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don't take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won't have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.